Getting Toddlers to Stay in Bed
By Supernanny Team on 25/06/2014
Many kids fall asleep without a problem, but learning to stay in their own beds throughout the night can take time. The Stay in Bed Technique method helps families get that much-needed uninterrupted evening - and a good night's sleep
Once a child has their own bed, climbing out to pay you a visit could become their favourite game - especially if the effort pays off with a night with Mum and Dad. Some determined toddlers will climb out of their cots for the privilege, while even formerly good sleepers can sometimes change their habits at different stages in their development. This is disruptive for parents, but could also affect siblings, too. What can you do about it?
Try this Stay in Bed technique - as with anything child-related, it's important that you're consistent and follow the steps. Soon you should create the right environment for your child to stay in their own bed all night.
Steps to keep your child in bed
Follow a calming bedtime routine. Before your child gets into bed, make sure they have no reason to get up - they've been to the toilet, had a little water - and it’s clear that you expect them to stay in bed now. This way, if the child gets out of bed, you won’t be drawn into a discussion about why they are up, and you can get on with the business of getting them back to sleep:
- The first time they get up, remind them that it’s bedtime, lead them back to bed, give them a kiss and a cuddle, and leave the bedroom.
- The second time, do the same but use a firmer voice and make the kiss and cuddle brief.
- The third and any subsequent times, say nothing at all as you lead them back to bed, tuck them in, and leave the room. This is the hard part, and it’s very tempting to give a cuddle. Remember that a gentle, consistent approach will convince your child that you’re there for them, but that you insist they sleep in their own bed.
What else might help?
You could make ‘stay in bed’ part of your child’s Reward Chart, but to break the back of an established ‘staying awake’ routine, it might be better to use a Star Chart initially. That way, you can give him a star on the nights he gets it right and not focus on the nights he doesn't.
Published by Supernanny Website on 25/06/2014
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